Believe in Yourself!

Believe in Yourself!

by 

Sadia Wali

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“Over these years, I have learned that life is not meant to be lived cowardly. If you continuously suppress your emotions and sentiments, and lack decision making power, certainly you need to step up and take charge of your life. People tend to take advantage of the weaker ones, and we should not let it happen to ourselves.

My journey towards gaining self- confidence and decision making was not easy. I made persistent efforts to stay away from negative beliefs. Removing negative thoughts helped me to explore life in a positive way. I empowered myself with positivity and confidence to transform my personality.

I was once afraid what people would think of me. I developed negative perception about myself that broke me down.  When I truly understood the meaning and purpose of living, I felt I was literally a fool who gets over- stressed on trivial matters. As we develop self-love, we begin to value our self. Life appears to be beautiful, every moment seems precious. No feeling of melancholy exists any longer.

“Remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”-Eleanor Roosevelt

 I began to discover myself, my fears and my potentials when I was brutally treated in my last office. I was hired for the post of research coordinator with a low pay scale but I was doing every task from peon to managerial. My bosses were always rude to me and used disparaging language. For over one year I endured their harsh behaviour. I realized that I need to speak up; my self-esteem was at stake. I was considered a peon or sweeper. I finally decided to speak out when they dictated me to clean the chairs and tables. I sat calmly on my seat and declared, “This is not part of my job! If I am not wrong, I was hired as a research coordinator not a sweeper.” They were stunned as they didn’t expect me to burst out. They were taking me for granted and my silent personality provoked them to treat me inhumanly. I handed my resignation and left the place with peace of mind. 

This transformation made me realize that decision- making is merely a choice and strength of mind. We need to realize our value and worth. We need to learn how to reply when someone insults us. This is how I gained the confidence to respond. Now I have the courage to stand and say ‘This is who I am!  I have strong decision power to say ‘No’. This has built the positive expectation for my present and future goals. I feel more optimistic and empowered.

Sadiqua Hamdan writes,

“Self-acceptance means living the life you choose to live without worrying what others think about you. It doesn’t matter what someone else thinks about you. What matters is what you think about yourself.” 

What we believe today can positively affect our success and health in future. Even a small positive idea can change the way we think, the way we feel, and the way we live. I personally feel that spending time with positive thinkers enhance positivity in my thinking and beliefs. I begin to think positively about my career and personal life. 

Consequently, my emotional and physical health improved and the most significant aspect of my life is developing the ability to make right choices and decisions in life.

When I look back, I can truly identify my lost personality into a confident and encouraging one. As I begin to love myself, I feel happier. I focus on my talents; I have things to share with the world. Hence, I find inner peace through prayer and meditation.

Author Darren Hardy put it this way,

“Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe, and enthusiastically act upon… must inevitably come to pass!”

If you believe you can do, you can change your destiny. Hence, believe in yourself with positivity!